Over the past few months I’ve had this conversation with a very dear friend of mine, Marigold, as well as a couple of family members and acquaintances. So when Hope came to me with a problem about her sibling being cursed I was full of advice.
Nettle: “No… it’s not a constant sending of negative energy, that is the crazy part of someone “cursing you” or sending you negative juju – you have to believe it’s happening and then you feed that seed by believing it. It takes about a month to break out of that cycle.
Hope: “So it’s all in their heads? Really, Nettle!
Nettle: “Yes and no, it’s a neophyte negative fantasy – let me explain.”
Hope: (with great foreshadowing) “lol, I sense a post emerging!”
Nettle: (putting on my best professorial robes):
“To curse someone takes energy. It’s a big spell and one that most of us believe – someone is sitting in a dark room chanting to the gods of evil, making prayers and chanting thoughts, sending doom and despair in our direction. Sadly, there is a much more malevolent reality. Think for a moment- who has the time and energy to chant dark thoughts for or about someone all day long? Not me, for sure. Some days I contemplate but then mundane realities like dishes, laundry, having to pay the bills, feed the cats, feed the humans – these all interrupt and well, poof there goes all my thoughts of death, destruction, and world domination.
The reality is that WE BELIEVE we are cursed, and once that seed is planted “all these bad things are happening to me, I must be (The) ‘Cursed”. We feed that seed. Everything bad then because power or food for ‘The Curse.’
‘The Curse’ is a small bit of energy sent as a suggestion that grows and grows by our fear and belief.
So, did someone send them negative thoughts? Yes.
Are they really powerful enough to make “The Curse” on them happen? I have my doubts. Most people do not have that level of power to always send energy to make the bad shit happen. Sure, they may believe they have the ear of the Furies, but it’s not likely.
But when we think/ feel/ believe everything bad that is happening to me right now is because John ‘Cursed’ me last week, we’ve fed ‘The Curse’ with our own power. We are feeding this illusion with our own power.
That is why they are so hard to break from, because we create and feed this illusion.
The reality is that sometimes things suck, sometimes bad things happen, there are random acts of chaos.
There is also nothing wrong with sending out a curse breaker, that will help us overcome the illusion. With most curses being illusion, and illusion being some of the hardest magic to work with or against, it does become a huge challenge to overcome. All tools are useful.
And there is your post my dear.”
(I, Nettle paused here for a sip of tea and to let my fingers rest and to adjust these fancy robes)
Hope: “It’s a nice little post!”
Nettle: “Thanks … does it make sense? This really got to me when I was going though chemo and dealing with cancer”
Hope: “It does make sense.”
Nettle: “It was hard to watch the number of people who thought, felt, and believed they were being punished by someone, and that something gave them cancer. These people walked around beaten, battered, and just soul sick. I had to really work that my cancer was just some random, fucked up chaos of the universe, nothing personal. I’d done nothing to deserve it nor was it a punishment for something I’d done in a past life. It was a random act of chaos – I was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. That mindset got reinforced each week with your Reiki and I’m sure that is why 16 years later I’m still cancer free.”
Hope: “Yes, you really ought to transcribe this into a post for the blog. It is very powerful.”
(Then I, Nettle, preened like a happy cat)
Nettle: “It shall be done, Number One.”
Hope: “Make it so!”
And it was, and it was kind of good.
Who hasn’t asked or felt when things in our life suck ‘Is something or someone causing this to happen to me?’ Maybe you had a friend an acquaintance (seriously you can’t call someone a friend who calls the furies on you) who was angry or felt the need to teach you a lesson and thought they knew the best way to teach that lesson was to call a Fury or some other vengeful spirit. I am not going to deny the existence of these beings. The Furies exist, as do other vengeful spirits and guardians. They have their purpose and reason for being, to bring balance to the universe. Yet to summon the Furies because someone has pissed you off is like getting a nuke to rid your house of termites.
Life lessons happen; some may be planned, and some are random.
Curses are real, but they are also some of the best illusion magic out there; so what does one do when they think they are cursed?
Do a bit of cleaning (physical and spiritual) of your space, self, and home. Burn some sage or other incenses. I’m a fan of a good Mirror spell, using a mirror to bounce the energy back to the caster as well as help you to see the illusion of the spell itself. Rowan branches, iron nails, black lava stones or maybe a nice piece of Ruby in Zoisite to turn that negative energy into something positive.
Take a deep breath and think “What’s really going on here.”